From Waiting to Thriving: My FIFO Love Journey
Hello, Gorgeous.
As I sit down to update my website and reflect on the incredible journey we’ve been on together, I can’t help but revisit the starting point – my very first blog post in 2010. It was a time when I was putting my life on semi-hold, waiting for my husband to come home to feel alive. The guilt of enjoying life without him weighed on me, and I felt myself slipping away.
Life, however, continued its relentless march forward while I stood still. Our relationship had become a routine, a slow, painful descent that could have been its undoing if not addressed. The realization hit me hard – I needed to feel alive again, love myself, and not feel guilty for it – not just for me, but for my family.
The journey to stop dying inside wasn’t easy; there were falls and moments of starting again, but with each stumble, it became a bit easier. I faced a choice between feeling dead or facing an even worse alternative – divorce. Divorce wasn’t an option for me, so I started on a journey only I could take, with small steps every day.
Reflecting on 2010, I’ve discovered an incredible richness in my life. Despite the challenges of our FIFO lifestyle, my days are vibrant and fulfilling, and my relationship grows more loving each day. My children are not just living but thriving, and I continue to invest in myself because I believe I’m worth it.
Now, I have the joy of empowering others to embrace their lives and love them. Life will always throw challenges, but the power lies in choosing how to deal with them. Choose yourself, and everything else falls into place.
Let’s touch on the struggles my family and I faced – my husband feeling like he didn’t quite fit into the family dynamic, communication breakdowns, mistrust, jealousy, and the loneliness we all grappled with during his time away. It was a rollercoaster ride that, at times, seemed impossible.
Yet, here’s the beautiful part – the very tools and strategies I now teach, the ones that became my lifeline, saved not only me but also us as a family. They bridged the gaps, healed the wounds, and turned our journey into a thriving one. The transformation was profound, a testament to the effectiveness of the approaches I’m passionate about sharing with you all.
And as I reflect on our journey, I can’t help but marvel at the emotional connection my family and I have forged. Despite the ongoing challenges of a FIFO lifestyle, we’ve discovered the profound beauty of staying emotionally connected every day. It’s a testament to the strength of our bond and the effectiveness of the tools and strategies that have become the heartbeat of our family life.
In the middle of separations and uncertainties, we’ve not only weathered the storm but also emerged with a relationship that thrives on emotional intimacy. It’s a reality I once doubted possible, yet here we are, a testament to the enduring power of love and the strategies I’m dedicated to sharing with you all.
As I update this blog post, I’m reminded of the strength within each of us to start living today. You are worth it!
With love and warmth,
Pamela x
Founder of FIFO Love
