How to get your partner to open up to you

Having excellent communication is one of the most essential skills a couple can have and plays a key part in having a solid loving relationship.

It’s common for one person in a relationship to withdraw during the conflict, which will increase the frustration and loneliness of the other partner. When you add the separation of FIFO to a relationship, working through a common issue can become harder for the couples. Often leaving them feeling like everything is on hold and/or living in hope that the next time they are together will be better.

If the couple continues this communication style, it will become an unhealthy pattern. Which will eventually lead to one or both giving up on trying to keep the connection alive. When this happens, the couple will have a very serious problem. Because relationships fail when people stop believing their partner can be who they want or need them to be.

In this video, I’ll share 3 tips for getting your withdrawn partner to open up.

Sometimes, no matter how gentle you are with your partner, they will still shut down, avoid and defend. I often see this happen when the negative cycle of FIFO creeps in and takes over the relationship.

When couples continue to live in hope that the next time will be better or avoid dealing with problems, this will keep the negative, hurtful patterns alive. And if a couple waits too long to get help, this can destroy their trust in each other and their commitment to the relationship.

Support is available if you are experiencing difficulty in communicating with your partner. I created a Facebook group as an online community for women ready to feel fabulous, empowered and in love with their life.

If you are looking for one-on-one support, I offer personalised coaching to help you learn how to connect and recreate the deep loving connection you desire. We work with your challenges in real time. I will be working with you to develop new habits, ways of being, thought processes and actions that will help you to recreate your relationship into something amazing. If this sounds like you, please contact me directly for more info.

Book Review – Separated By Work

Blank vertical book cover template standing on white surface   VSeparated By Work – Kirsty O’callaghan

I first picked up my copy of Separated By Work at Kirsty’s book launch in March 2016. As a long-time FIFO partner and FIFO coach, I enjoyed listening to Kirsty speak about her experience as a FIFO wife. She shared her relationship, family struggles, and the mistakes she made in the beginning, and she really hit home.

I connected absolutely with what she was talking about and knew I had to grab a copy of her book.

Kirsty’s book Separated By Work explores many of the problems we experience in a FIFO lifestyle. Topics she covers include money and goals, parenting challenges, life after FIFO, the all-important “why are we doing this” and much more. I personally connected with some of the issues she discusses and found her tips and hands-on solutions useful.

While she shares her personal journey as a FIFO wife, Kirsty has also included stories from others who have someone who works away, so you get a real sense that these issues are not exclusive to just you and your family.

What I loved about Separated By Work is that it is not just a personal journey but offers real solutions on how to move through the issues a FIFO lifestyle can cause. Not only has she included her solutions, but Kirsty also has had professionals offering helpful advice and includes “how-to” templates to help you and your family survive and thrive through your FIFO lifestyle.

As a professional supporting a FIFO couple to keep their loving connection alive in their FIFO journey, I highly recommend Separated By Work to anyone who is just starting out in a FIFO lifestyle or is struggling with being separated by work. I also feel this book would be an excellent tool for non-FIFO family members to understand the world of FIFO and how to best support their FIFO family members.

If you are looking for a workbook that is easy to read, self-paced, and full of practical tips, exercises and resources, then Separated By Work is definitely for you.

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Keep Smiling

Pamela 

A Christmas Romance Free Printable’s

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Merry Christmas, Gorgeous,

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Being in a FIFO relationship is hard, especially at this time of year. For some of us, we have our partner’s home, and for the rest of us, we have to think outside the box to make Christmas a little extra special for our partner who won’t be home.

If you, like me, are always looking for fun ideas to keep the connection alive while apart but find the internet search overwhelming and don’t know where to start or what to start with! You can stop your search here because I’ve created the perfect FIFO Christmas gift experience for you and your partner.

The Best Part? It’s FREE!!!!

I created this free printable book, especially for you. I decided to share some of my printable fun, inspirational DIY ideas to make your FIFO Lovers Christmas a little extra special.

Stay connected this Christmas with these quick and easy ideas which will mean so much to your lover.

A Fifo Christmas can be stressful, but it doesn’t have to be! This e-book provides easy action steps and printables to take the stress away and allow you to stay connected and keep the love alive this Christmas.

This 14-page book is packed with fun ideas which include:

Christmas together. Top view of Christmas decorations and photograph in picture frame laying on the rustic wooden grain

Jaw-dropping pre-made Love Coupons or create your own with 20 fun-loving ideas. Use these adorable love coupons to fill your “Open When” love letter for your sweetie.

Playful DIY Stocking Stuffers Ideas… You will love these easy-to-create playful stocking stuffers – and so will your lover. {wink wink}

Cheeky Kiss-mas Ideas for under the mistletoe – ask your lover to pick one to try next R&R and make their eyes light up with excitement!

Being Naughty feels Oh so Nice… It’s time to create your Naughty and Nice Wish List. Describe your cheekiest Christmas fantasies in every naughty or nice detail, so your lover can make your wishes come true next R&R.

 25 fun and cheeky Christmas text messages – Use them to start a fun Christmas countdown and make your lover smile through the hard days or be a little playful and see what cheeky fun could be had this Christmas eve! {wink wink} 

And so much more…

Grab your FREE 14-page Printable Today and give your lover’s a merry gift of love from afar to remember! Well, until the next R&R!

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14 Tongue Tingling Kisses to Seduce your Lover

“Life, the gift of nature, Love, the gift of life, a Kiss, the gift of Love.”-Unknown

Let’s face it, a great kiss feels good. It makes the world disappear (even if it’s just for a moment) and fills our hearts with desire.

Did you know?
 The average person will spend an estimated 20,160 minutes kissing in their lifetime
 50% of all people have their first kiss before they are 14
 You burn 26 calories in a one-minute passionate kiss… love to kissercise!!!
 53% of women prefer kissing a clean shaven man
 Kissing releases the same neurotransmitters (chemical messengers in the brain) as those that are released when you engage in intense exercises such as running a marathon or skydiving. This causes your heart to beat faster and your breathing to become deep and irregular.
 Lowers Stress and Anxiety by decreasing the stress hormone and has similar benefits to mediation. I say YES to more kissing!
 When kissing, the oxytocin (Love Hormone) levels increase which calms us and simulates pleasure which strengthens our relationship
 Happiness is a kiss away – kissing increases endorphins, our feel-good hormone. Making us feel happier, you feel relaxed, refreshed and revitalised

“One kiss breaches the distance between friendship and love.”- Anonymous

Kissing plays a huge part in our life. We all remember our first passionate kiss, and we kiss to keep our long-term relationship alive. Studies have shown that we use kissing to choose a suitable partner. Kissing is more important to women than to men. Women are more likely to see kissing as a way to monitor their long-term relationships.

The studies also revealed that it is important for men to have healthy mouths. The breath and taste of a man’s kiss are highly important in determining if she will keep kissing him in the moment or the future.

Women value the experience of kissing much more than a man. Men are more likely to see kissing as a step towards sex. Men, when kissing, are more interested in facial and bodily attractiveness.

These studies when into more scientific research, but in short, these are the best tips from the art of kissing:

Tips for women:
  The study show men want us women to open our month more…. Men prefer wetter kisses with lots more tongue action
And of course, they want us to initiate more
They want us to stop holding back…. Be more aggressive with your tongue and actively participate in the kiss.

Tips for Men:
 Women like a clean month; she doesn’t want to taste what you had for lunch. Carry mints or use mouthwash before going in for the kiss. Women depend heavily on taste and smell… kissing is an experience for her, so take her on your pleasure journey.
 Women don’t like it when you stuff your tongue down her throat. You are kissing her, not trying to impregnate her with your tongue.
Allow her to breath; we enjoy kissing more if we are not being suffocated.
Listen and feel the way she is kissing. Matching her tempo will create a desire which will allow her to become comfortable with the tongue action you want from her.

96% of Women studied prefer the neck as a second spot to kiss, while only 10% of men do. Women also stated in the studies they would like to be kissed in several different places and styles of kisses.

So with this in mind, it’s time to be creative and start playing… below are a few fun ways to get your tingling tongue in action.

It’s time to Pucker up…

  1. Public Kiss – Not everyone likes the idea of being an exhibitionist. But kissing in public is a declaration of your love, and this act of freedom can be one big turn-on! Instead of going out to dinner, why not try happy hour?
  2. Ice Kiss – Suck on an ice cube until your mouth becomes cold. Remove the cube or exchange it back and forth between you and your partner’s mouth. Allow your cold kisses to trace other parts of the body.
  3. Eyes Wide Open -Try experiencing a passionate kiss with your eyes open and see what happens; it can be both tender and erotic. Sit in front of each other with your legs wrapped around each other’s hips. Listen to each other’s breathing. Once you are in tune with your lover’s breathing, draw your eyes up to meet their eyes. Just continue to listen to their breathing and when ready lean in and begin the kiss… keep staring into their eyes.
  4. Pash-A-Thon – Passionately kiss your lover for at least five minutes longer than usual.
  5. Goodbye Kiss take 2 – We cover this one in my How to make saying Goodbye a Little Easier – Say goodbye to your lover with a quick kiss. As they turn to leave, pull them back for a second, more passionate kiss and include a squeeze of their sexy sweet cheek.
  6. Nibble Nibble – For some, the ear can be very seductive – suck, nibble and tug lightly. Breathe softly into them and whisper something sexy.
  7. Downward Kiss – We just found out that 96% of women and 10% of men like the neck to be kissed. So spend a little time here licking, kissing and light biting around the neck, jawline and shoulders. Have fun, as this is one of the most intensely pleasurable areas of the body.

Let’s Spice it Up….

  1. Angel’s Wing Kiss – Take a piece of ice and place it in the small of your lover’s back. Slowly move the ice up their back to the shoulder blades. End the kiss by gently sucking until the ice melts. Get your partner to try it on you… Think about it, the warmth of his breath upon your skin. The tingling feeling of goosebumps all over your body, feel the excitement… Is it the ice or his touch?
  2. Back Kiss – Remove your lover’s shirt and have them lie down on their stomach. Sit comfortably over your lover’s lower back. Now begin kissing from the neck all the way down their back while softly licking and breathing where you have kissed. This will give your lover cold shivers and can be very exciting. It works very well by adding sweet and playful edible strawberry honey dust. As it adds a little something extra to your kiss, leaving you wanting to kiss your partner more.
  3. Take My Breath Away  – While kissing with a little bit of tongue, you blow into your lover’s mouth, causing their cheeks to poof up! It’s so much fun, and it will make your lover giggle. Don’t blow too hard! This is a cheeky way to start the fun and let your lover know you’re in a playful mood.
  4. Bubble-licious Kiss – Blow a bubble with your favourite bubble gum. Then ask your lover to put their mouth over the bubble and start kissing. This kiss is a lot of fun if you can get passed the giggling, not to mention how yummy it tastes.
  5. Tease Me – If you’re feeling adventurous, try gentle biting to add arousal. Be sure you’re gentle; this passionate gesture can bring out the animal in you.
  6. Bubble Bath Kiss – Fill the bathtub with warm water and lots of bubble baths. While in the bath together, wash and kiss each other simultaneously. You and your lover will both love it, which can lead to even more fun things. Add some sweet-smelling bath salt that is perfect for this kiss, as the beautiful fragrance will help to create a romantic bath time. Turn the phone off, adds some softly lit candles, and the night is yours!!!!
  7. Fireworks Kiss – You need a bag of popping candy. Place a small handful in your mouth and begin kissing your lover… Wait for it…your begin to feel a French kiss explosion! Mmmm…  If you can’t find popping candy try a fruit tingle. Just crush it up a little first and kiss away. Mouth-watering fun!

“Kissing is like drinking salted water. You drink, and your thirst increases.” – Chinese Proverb

Kissing is a great way to initiate a romantic together without having to say a word. It’s a beautiful way to show your lover how much you love them. There are plenty more benefits to kissing. I’m guessing you already have your favourite reasons, so share them with your lover today. As you now have 14 new ways to add fireworks to your kiss. So start kissing away the stress of FIFO and get your tongues tingling with desire on your next RnR.

Lots of love and kisses xoxo

7 Tips to create a happy healthy fifo relationship

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