How to get your partner to open up to you

Having excellent communication is one of the most essential skills a couple can have and plays a key part in having a solid loving relationship.

It’s common for one person in a relationship to withdraw during the conflict, which will increase the frustration and loneliness of the other partner. When you add the separation of FIFO to a relationship, working through a common issue can become harder for the couples. Often leaving them feeling like everything is on hold and/or living in hope that the next time they are together will be better.

If the couple continues this communication style, it will become an unhealthy pattern. Which will eventually lead to one or both giving up on trying to keep the connection alive. When this happens, the couple will have a very serious problem. Because relationships fail when people stop believing their partner can be who they want or need them to be.

In this video, I’ll share 3 tips for getting your withdrawn partner to open up.

Sometimes, no matter how gentle you are with your partner, they will still shut down, avoid and defend. I often see this happen when the negative cycle of FIFO creeps in and takes over the relationship.

When couples continue to live in hope that the next time will be better or avoid dealing with problems, this will keep the negative, hurtful patterns alive. And if a couple waits too long to get help, this can destroy their trust in each other and their commitment to the relationship.

Support is available if you are experiencing difficulty in communicating with your partner. I created a Facebook group as an online community for women ready to feel fabulous, empowered and in love with their life.

If you are looking for one-on-one support, I offer personalised coaching to help you learn how to connect and recreate the deep loving connection you desire. We work with your challenges in real time. I will be working with you to develop new habits, ways of being, thought processes and actions that will help you to recreate your relationship into something amazing. If this sounds like you, please contact me directly for more info.

Book Review – Separated By Work

Blank vertical book cover template standing on white surface   VSeparated By Work – Kirsty O’callaghan

I first picked up my copy of Separated By Work at Kirsty’s book launch in March 2016. As a long-time FIFO partner and FIFO coach, I enjoyed listening to Kirsty speak about her experience as a FIFO wife. She shared her relationship, family struggles, and the mistakes she made in the beginning, and she really hit home.

I connected absolutely with what she was talking about and knew I had to grab a copy of her book.

Kirsty’s book Separated By Work explores many of the problems we experience in a FIFO lifestyle. Topics she covers include money and goals, parenting challenges, life after FIFO, the all-important “why are we doing this” and much more. I personally connected with some of the issues she discusses and found her tips and hands-on solutions useful.

While she shares her personal journey as a FIFO wife, Kirsty has also included stories from others who have someone who works away, so you get a real sense that these issues are not exclusive to just you and your family.

What I loved about Separated By Work is that it is not just a personal journey but offers real solutions on how to move through the issues a FIFO lifestyle can cause. Not only has she included her solutions, but Kirsty also has had professionals offering helpful advice and includes “how-to” templates to help you and your family survive and thrive through your FIFO lifestyle.

As a professional supporting a FIFO couple to keep their loving connection alive in their FIFO journey, I highly recommend Separated By Work to anyone who is just starting out in a FIFO lifestyle or is struggling with being separated by work. I also feel this book would be an excellent tool for non-FIFO family members to understand the world of FIFO and how to best support their FIFO family members.

If you are looking for a workbook that is easy to read, self-paced, and full of practical tips, exercises and resources, then Separated By Work is definitely for you.

Click Here to grab your copy today!

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Pamela