One of the downsides to the fifo lifestyle is having to say good-bye every few weeks or in my case every 11 days… Being in a DIDO/FIFO relationship for decade now, I understand how the time flies when your partner is home. You’re exciting to see them walk through the door, next your loving them being there when you wake up, then you blink and they’re packing their bags and we saying goodbye.

Emotionally, saying good bye in this lifestyle can be one of hardest things we do. Their home time never feels long enough. Yes, we survive it… we stay strong, keep ourselves busy until the next RNR. We know going into this lifestyle that this is part of the routine but it doesn’t make it any easier.

Believe me after 10 years I still have days where it’s hard to say those word, smile through the tears. What this has allowed me to see, is we are very much in LOVE…. if I didn’t feel this way then it wouldn’t hurt or be hard to part.

Knowing that my partner hates the good-bye too, somehow this re-assures me that we are ok in this lifestyle and that our love for each other is stronger than the distance.

For me this is something to be very proud off. As there are many couples who are not in this lifestyle, see their partner every day and don’t get to feel or have the gentle reminder of how in love they really are… but that a whole another conversations, which I will save for another day.

Saying good-bye to your partner doesn’t mean we are saying good bye to our relationship.

It’s just the nature of our relationship while in this lifestyle. The change from being a physical relationship (Kissing, cuddling etc) to one that is more communication (phone calls, texting, skype etc), which can be fun!

By having both physical and the distance, I between we learn more about ourselves and our relationship much faster, creating a stronger bond or connection. A non fifo relationship doesn’t get to experience both physical and non physical or if they do experience it, it’s usually not over a long period of time, so the positive impact of missing their partner can be short lived.

In the urban dictionary “good-bye” means: “Means leaving someone or something, and sometimes never seeing them again.”

I thought I would share with you my tips on saying good-bye a little easier.

Try not to say the word Good-bye, as it has a final ending feeling to it, so formal. It can also reinforce our subconscious mind that this is the end, connecting it to our relationship because one partner is leaving the other.

Keep it causal and try use words like:

Talk to you tonight
See you later
See you soon.
Have a good day or night
Take care
Catch you later
Bye for now
Safe travel
Until we meet again 😉

Keep it fun by saying:
Peace out babe
Smell you later
Toodle-oo
See you later alligator
Give em hell
Happy trails
Adios (Spanish word)

You could channel your inner 50 shades by saying:

Laters baby
Spank you later baby

And add a wink or two!!!

Romantic good bye:
I’ll dream of you
I’ll see you in my dreams
Au revoir (French always sound romantic)

By keeping your goodbyes playful it helps keep the love, desire, flirty fun alive. By keeping the feeling of love and desire alive while apart in short, creates a sense of wanting in the partner who is away… creates a desire or yarning to be with you… I will share more on desire another day.

Little tip: for those who want to try the cheeky goodbye… maintain eye contact, get into their personal space… get in real close and go in for the hug, linger a few seconds longer and if you feeling really playful or want them to have something to think about on their way back to camp… either go in for the killer kiss or squeeze their sexy sweet cheek… (Yes I mean their cute ass!) Now don’t say a word if they ask what’s that for… just wink and say your version of good-bye “Until we meet again or Laters baby” If this is something you don’t normal do, it will surprise them and they will LOVE IT!

So before you both zoom off into the world, take a minute to communicate how much you enjoyed your time together. Make a date for your next call to touch base, as this helps you feel connected with each other. Follow this with a minimum six second kiss. Kissing is an act of emotion and adding a six second kiss creates or seals an emotional connection, a bond between two people.

Saying goodbye is an unavoidable part of FIFO relationships. Just remember that the time spent apart, allow you to appreciate your time together. So however you choose to say good-bye, remember to keep it fun, playful as it’s not forever!

Later’s Baby
 xoxo